By Ruth Hunter-Hill
There’s no doubt that self-esteem impacts every facet of our lives, in positive and negative ways. Countless studies over decades have discussed how our self-esteem affects our professional and personal lives, and the importance of recognizing our self-worth.
Many students have low self-esteem for a variety of reasons. Maybe a learning disability exists that makes it difficult to learn in the traditional learning environment. Or it could be something as “simple” as a student needing glasses so badly that it affects their ability to effectively study or participate in class – and he’s embarrassed to admit that glasses aren’t affordable for his family.
Yes, there are many things that can contribute to low self-esteem – some of which are unfortunately out of our control. We may even convince ourselves that we can’t do any better. That can start a dangerous downward spiral.
But there is hope! Low self-esteem can be turned around if we’re willing to take action and be our best advocate.
When I went back to college after nearly 30 years, I struggled with my self-esteem. I had set high expectations for myself and started wondering if I had been too ambitious. Studying for me was nearly another full-time job.
The classes didn’t get any easier over time, but something really good started to happen. As I attended class and participated in class and teamwork, my confidence began to build. My individual grades were good, but some of my teammates’ grades were suffering – which meant my grade could ultimately suffer as well. Unintentionally, I emerged as team leader or facilitator throughout my time in school. As teams, we learned how to build up each other’s confidence – thereby injecting positive self-esteem into each individual.
Did this confidence-building via teamwork produce A’s for every person, every time? Of course not! Whether working on a team or not, the more you put into any study exercise, the more you will get out of it. The point is that we all left each exercise with a higher belief in our own abilities; higher self-esteem!
Outside of team classwork, focus on having a study plan that works for you. Surround yourself with others who are like-minded, and who have similar goals and expectations for themselves. Hard work is a must, but so is scheduling time to participate in other activities that help balance the stress of studying. Reward yourself for good behavior – don’t wait for someone else to do it!
Building up your self-esteem is not an overnight process. And it is an individualized process that works for you. Start by having an honest conversation about your strengths and weaknesses, then set your academic goals so you can capitalize on your strengths and recognize where you need help. Don’t be shy about seeking help.
The sooner you get started, the sooner you can become a much-improved, and much more confident, student. And remember, self-confidence and high self-esteem impact more than just your academic life. It positively impacts your “life” life.
Now. Can you see more A’s in your future?
Mar12020
